DA Valor Coping

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Leadership - Tony Robbins

Connect - understand and appreciate 'their world'

1. Understand your own world 

2. Understand their world

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Coping / defense Mechanisms

Defense mechanisms are behaviors people use to separate themselves from unpleasant events, actions, or thoughts. These psychological strategies may help people put distance between themselves and threats or unwanted feelings, such as guilt or shame.

Mecanismos de defesa são comportamentos que as pessoas usam para se separar de eventos, ações ou pensamentos desagradáveis. Essas estratégias psicológicas podem ajudar as pessoas a se distanciarem de ameaças ou sentimentos indesejados, como culpa ou vergonha.

Denial 

Refuse to accept reality or facts - to not have to deal with the emotional impact.

Repression

Hide:

-painful memories

-painful thoughts

Projection

Some feelings or thoughts make you feel uncomfortable. instead of accepting, you project.

Example: You don't like your new colleague. You tell yourself they dislike you.

Displacement

Direct strong emotions or frustrations to 'the wrong person'

Getting angry with your child or partner when you had a bad day at work

Regression

Escape to an earlier stage / period. 

A lot of children use this: they start wetting the bed again as if they are babies. Adults do it too: overeat, smoking, avoid activities, chew on pens.

Rationalization

Explain un-desirable behaviors with own 'set of facts'.

Example: being angry at colleague for not completing work on time, while you are 'forgetting' you are always late.  

Sublimation

'Positive strategy'

redirect strong feelings to an object that is safe. 

Example: kickboxing, art, train

Reaction formation

Behave opposite: 

React in an overly positive way.

Intellectualisation

Remove all emotion and focus on facts. 

Compartementalization

Divide life in boxes. Make a separation. At work, you do not talk about private problems etc. 

Speeddating

What is your most used coping mechanism and how do you use it?