In the Time of Mary and Joseph, in the 1st Century in Ancient Israel, Society was Strongly Influenced by Religious Laws and Cultural Norms that Determined Rigid Behavior and Moral Standards, Especially in the Areas of Marriage and Sexuality. It Was a Patriarchal Society, Where the Honor and Respect of a Woman Were Closely Linked to Her Virginity and Behavior within Marriage.
Reactions to Women Who Were Pregnant Outside of Marriage: Shame and Scandal: Women who became pregnant outside of marriage would experience significant social shame. They would be considered "immoral" or "impure," which was a serious accusation at the time. The woman's family would often be embarrassed, and the woman herself might be excluded from social interactions. It was a serious violation of the norms, and the community would distance itself from the girl or woman in such a situation.
The Law of Moses and the Punishment: The law followed at that time was based on the Torah (Jewish law), which prescribed severe punishments for adultery and infidelity. For example, Deuteronomy 22:20-21 states that a woman who is "not found to be a virgin" on her wedding night must be stoned. Also, in Leviticus 20:10, adultery is punishable by death. Although the actual execution of these punishments did not always occur, the threat of such a punishment was present, and women who became pregnant outside of marriage could theoretically be severely punished.
Disownment or Divorce: In some cases, a woman who was pregnant outside of marriage could be disowned by her fiancé or husband. In the time of Mary, according to the Gospel of Matthew, Joseph, her fiancé, considered "quietly divorcing" her, so that she would not be publicly accused or punished. This was a way of protecting the woman’s honor while the community could still forgive her shame. This points to the possibility of a "silent" divorce without public punishment, which Joseph, as a righteous man, would have chosen.
Stigmatization: Stigmatizing a woman who was pregnant outside of marriage often went beyond just social shame. Her survival in the community could be at risk, and she might face a life of poverty or social isolation. Women often had little social mobility without a husband or father to support them.
Specifically in the Case of Mary: In the case of Mary, according to the biblical story in the Gospel of Matthew, the situation would have been particularly difficult. Mary was pregnant, but she was not yet married to Joseph, and the pregnancy was caused by the Holy Spirit, as the Christian faith teaches. This, of course, was something Joseph initially struggled to understand, and he considered divorcing her. The Bible mentions that Joseph, being a righteous man, chose not to publicly accuse her of infidelity or have her punished, but to quietly send her away.
The reaction to Mary's pregnancy at that time in her community, unless Joseph had intervened, would likely have been very negative. She would have been considered a woman who committed adultery, with all the shame and possible punishment that entailed. However, according to Christian tradition, Mary’s pregnancy is not seen as an act of adultery because the faith teaches that she was pregnant by the Holy Spirit and that her pregnancy was a miracle.
In short, at that time, a woman who became pregnant outside of marriage would face severe social and religious consequences, and her life would be greatly influenced by stigma and possible punishment. Mary's situation was exceptional, both because of the divine intervention and because of the grace of Joseph, who, instead of condemning her, protected her.