MYP 5b Sex Education Lesson 1

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MYP 5b Sex Education 

By the end of this unit I will be able to:

• Understand intimacy and readiness including sexual pressure
  
• Know what consent is, how to give and not to give and withdraw
  
• Understand pornography and it's impact on understanding                                                                  consent and gender inequalities
• Knowledgable on various contrception methods,                                                                consequences of not using contraception; pregnancies and STI's

Ground Rules

Building Intimacy

Look at the intimacy cards and order the cards, from the first steps of building intimacy, up to the most intimate.

There are 24 cards. You can:

• Put several cards at the same stage
• Remove any cards you don't agree with (up to 10)
• Try to reach an agreement about where to place the cards
• Have you any you would like to add?

Comparing Our Views

Let's see what other groups thought.

Leave your cards where they are and move around to see how other tables ordered the cards.

• Which cards (if any) did your group choose to reject and why?
• Did you notice any differences between how different groups organised the cards?
• Was it easy or hard to agree on how to order the cards? Why do you think this is?
• Which is the harder to establish - physical intimacy or emotional intimacy?
• Why does building intimacy take time?

Having sex

Discuss the following question in pairs:

Why do people have sex?

Having Sex

There are many reasons why people have sex, some of which are healthier than others. These include the following:

• to strengthen a bond in a relationship,
  
• for pleasure or enjoyment,
  
• because they are sexually attracted to someone,
  
• to procreate (have children),
  
• to explore their body in a sexual way,
  
• because they feel pressure from others to have sex or think it will disappoint someone else if they don’t have sex,
  
• because they think that it is an obvious step in their relationship.
  

Remember, wanting to have sex is a normal feeling but so is not wanting to have sex. People are also able to change their minds about sex – they might have sex and then decide that they didn’t like it or weren’t ready for sex – either for the first time or with that particular partner. This decision is OK and should be respected.

Sexual Pressure

Some people feel pressure to have sex before they are ready. This may be because:

• their friends are talking about having sex,
  
• their partner wants to have sex with them,
  
• TV shows, films and other media show people their age having sex,
  
• people have said unkind things or bullied them for not having had sex.
  

It can be hard to deal with this kind of pressure, but it is important to trust yourself and make the decision that is best for you. Trust that you are the best person to make decisions for yourself and your body. Your body, Your choice.

A good starting point may be deciding what you think you would be comfortable with ahead of time. You can always change your mind but it is a good idea to know what your boundaries are and communicate them to your partner.

Set clear boundaries by telling your partner what you are comfortable with as well as what you are not comfortable with. For example, you may not want to engage in sexual activity but you may be comfortable with kissing, cuddling, touching each other or something else.

Are You Ready?

Can you say Yes to these questions?

1. Does it feel right?

2. Do me and my partner feel the same about each other?

3. Have we talked about using condoms to prevent STIs and HIV, and was the talk OK?

4. Have we got contraception organised to protect against pregnancy?

5. Do I feel able to say "no" at any point if I change my mind, and will we both be          OK with that?

Are You Ready?

AND answer No to these questions?

1. Do I feel under pressure from anyone, such as my partner or friends?

2. Could I have any regrets afterwards?

3. Am I thinking about having sex just to impress my friends or keep up with them?

4. Am I thinking about having sex just to keep my partner?

Intimacy Without Sex

Discuss the following question in pairs:

How could people be intimate with each other without having sex?

Intimacy Without Sex

If a person does not want to have sex, there are still a number of ways for them to experience intimacy without sex. Some of these may also happen before sex or alongside sex. Ways to have intimacy and strengthen a bond without having sex may include:

Look at the scenario cards and give advice 

touches or 

caresses 

kissing

compimenting each other

giving

massages

hugging or

cuddling

deep

conversations

quality time together

holding hands

sustained eye contact

actively listening

sitting close together

being open and honest

Reconnecting Activity

Consent is defined in law as agreement by choice made by someone with the freedom and capacity to consent. Under the law, it is the person seeking consent who is responsible for ensuring that these conditions are met.

Add your ideas to the graffiti walls

Permission

"Would you like to...?"

Persuasion

"You know you want to...?"

Head, Heart, Hands

Read the overheard conversation.

Now consider Person A: What might they be thinking, feeling and doing next?

Head, Heart, Hands

Person B might be feeling:

Nervous

Uncertain

Uncomfortable

Distressed

Threatened

Afraid

Person A might be feeling:

Embarrassed

Rejected

Disrespected

Led on

However Person A is feeling, they MUST respect Person B's choice not to have sex

Appropriate Language

Inapproprate Statements

If you really loved me you would do this for me

I get what you're saying but when that happened I felt...

I really like you but something's really bothering me so can we talk about it?

You're overreacting - grow up!

I'm sorry I made you feel that way. Let me explain things from my point of view...

I don't like your friends so it's me or them!

I'm sorry. How can I make this better?

I hadn't thought of it like that before...

I promise I'll never do it again, as long as you don't upset me like that again...

It's easy to find someone else, so stop nagging me or we're through!

Whoa - that didn't feel right. Let's talk about it

Consent

Complete the sheet...

Even if you have had sex before, you are still able to say ‘no’. Sexual consent is specific to each sexual act, each time it happens. Even if you have done a specific sexual act with that specific partner before, it does not mean you automatically want do this again. It is not OK for a partner to put pressure on you.

What is pornography?

Pornography is...

Books, magazines, films, etc. with no artistic value that describe or show sexual acts or naked people in a way that is intended to be sexually exciting.

However, recent theorists have defined it more specifically as material which presents people—particularly women—as mute, available, and subordinate sexual objects, often shown in a context of violence.

Youth produced sexual imagery

Exposure to pornography can also lead people to feel increased pressure to create and share sexual imagery.

Read the scenarios and decide:

• Were any of the scenarios consensual at any point?
• When did any of the scenarios change to become non-consensual?
• Are any of these sceanarios illegal?

Diego's story...

Read Diego's story about his exposure to pronography

Then answer the following questions...

What happened to Diego's viewing habits around pornography throughout his teenage years?

How do you think Diego's pornography use affected his real-life relationships?

How do you think Diego's pornography use affected his girlfriend and others around him?

What might be the consequences of Diego's actions?

What does Diego need to do at the moment the story ends?

What is the impact of porn?

For many years, researchers have been exploring how viewing pornography can affect teenagers and adults, and their relationships.

Look at the harms on your sheet.

• Which did Diego experience in the story (shade these green)?
• Which did Diego not expereince (shade these red)?
• Which 'harm' of pornography do you consider most serious? Why?

What might be the possible harms of frequent pornography use?

Statement Match Up

Match the start of the statement with the end of the statement

1. Start...

...End

...End

2. Start...

Contraception

Watch the following video and fill in the sheet

Teenage 

Pregnancy

Statistics

(2021)

Amalie & Dan

Read the scenario on your handout and respond to the four questions surrounding it

• How might Amalie be feeling?
• How might Dan be feeling?
• What options do they have?
• What might their next steps be?

Dan and Amalie are both 16 years old. Amalie has missed her last period, so asked Dan to buy a pregnancy test and bring it round when her parents were out. 

She has just taken the test and the result is positive.

Next Steps...

In case of an unplanned pregnancy there are 3 options:

Write down a three-point action plan of next steps your character might take

Become a 

Parent

Termination

Relinquish the child for adoption

This could include who the character might speak to, who they might turn to for emotional support, what conversations they might need to have, or where they might go for further help and advice.

Please ask any questions here that you may have arising from Amalie & Dan's scenario

Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STD's)

Human PapillomaVirus (HPV)

HPV does not usually cause symptoms

Sometimes the virus can cause painless growths or lumps on your body (warts)

HPV is a group of related viruses

There are more than 200 types. About 40 of them are spread through direct sexual contact with someone who has the virus

They can also spread through other intimate, skin to skin contact

Some of these types can cause cancer

HPV is very common

Condoms can reduce but not eliminate risk.

Vaccinations given to prevent.

Scraping cells from the cervix in females to screen for the virus. Visual idenitification in males

No treatment

HPV

Syphilis

HIV

Gonorrhea

Chlamydia

Genital Warts

Genital Herpes

Further Resources...

Your GP/Huisarts

sense.info

ceopeducation.co.uk

And of course you can always speak with...

Nurse Rachel

Ms Kirsty

and/or

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